Arthur Barillas- Something's gotta give

Arthur (24), his husband, Anthony (29)
Their Children: Nolen and Nelina (1)
Last update/ Next update
Narrated by Arthur

Anthony and I had a realization that we are not in a great spot right now.  Financially we are tapped.   We do not know if we are going to make the rent next month.  Anthony has suggested for me to talk to my moms and see if they can loan us some money.  I refuse to do that. It has been a c couple of years but our relationship is still not that great.  I don't want to now go back to them and ask for money.  Therefore Anthony will now be looking for a new job.

While he was looking for a job, we decided that he would stay home and take care of the twins.  He agreed but I could tell that he didn't want this to be his full time job.  I argued that this was not a job but our responsibility as parents.  I think it finally clicked for him.

Anthony is great with our twins. He is so scared that he is not going to take care of them correctly but he has proven that he is doing a great job.

****************

I started to get sick.  I was not sure if I had caught a cold but something told me that I was pregnant.  I was hoping that this was not true because we could not afford another baby right now.

*************

I lucked out and found a program through work that would lend me money to help buy a house.  At first I was skeptical but once I found out it was a great program I was read to sign up.  Soon we were approved and bought a plot of land.  The loan also helped us build a shell of a house.  It was up to us to work and get theinside looking the way that we want.

We moved in and we were ecstatic to be home owners. I was now showing and we were happy to know that we had at least a stable home.  Anthony was still struggling to find a job but with a new baby coming we were not in a rush.  Day care would cost a lot and we were not sure we could afford it.

It was so nice to be "home".  Right now we do not have much but it's great to have our own space.

I had called my sister Isabel and told her that we had moved.  She of course asked if I had told my moms. I had not because I wanted to see if we were approved.  I know my mom Meadow would approve but I was not sure of my mom Amarilis.  She was still struggling with accepting my marriage to Anthony. 

We celebrated the twins birthday with a quite celebration.  Nelina was happy to start crawling around.  This just meant that we needed to baby proof the house.

Nolan is quieter than Nelina.

Soon it was time for me to give birth.  Anthony and I ran with our family to the hospital. 

We thank God when I gave birth to our son Harrison.  For now we are complete. We have decided not to have any more children until we are more stable.